We shouldn't treat our loved ones less kindly than we do with strangers. However, this what we often do. We need to try to improve our tolerance with our loved ones' idiosyncrasies, so that we won't regret about how we treated them.
But don't do this because you need to recharge your tolerance for the things about your loved ones that annoy you. Do this to acquire a new perspective. Get out into the world and try to appreciate the good in your loved ones to have a balance view of the things that frustrate you about them.
