That's right... You can't motivate anyone else. It is flat out impossible to do that. Why not? After all, didn't people like Tony Robbins and Zig Ziglar make millions being motivational speakers? They did. But they didn't motivate anyone either. Motivation is not something that comes from outside. It comes from within.
Motivation is a reason to act; something that moves you to action. Only you can decide what you want to act on. Only you can decide what is important enough to act upon. I can't make you act on something. I can't make you excited about something. I can't give you reasons to act or not act. What moves you to act will almost entirely be how you feel about something.
The only thing that I, or anyone else, can do is to spark an interest in you. The best anyone can do is to create pressure that forces you to re-evaluate your priorities or get you to look at yourself or your situation in a new light. But in the end, only YOU can decide to act. Only you can decide that acting is more important than not acting.
But, you may say, "What about this absurd and unrealistic situation to blow your theory? A really bad guy is holding a gun to my child's head. I have to do what he says or my child dies!"
Well, I still say that the "really bad guy" can't motivate you. Your love (or lack of it) for your child is what moves you to action. What if you are told to shoot your other child? Did the "really bad guy" motivate you then?
Of course these are absurd. That's my point. In that situation or any other situation, you evaluate the situation and choose what is most important to you. Then you act.
Sometimes you act by NOT acting. You procrastinate. You get in a state of drift where you don't know what to do. Sometimes you choose immediate pleasure because it's better than the alternative... even when the alternative leads to greater pleasure in the future.
So, when you feel depressed or un-motivated, you really are motivated... You have reasons to act (or not to act). They just may not be apparent. The things that you wish you were doing or could do are within your grasp. You just don't have strong enough motive to do so.
So, ask yourself why you're currently doing what you're doing. Is it to avoid immediate pain at the expense of future pleasure? Is it to build a positive future or to avoid a negative present? These questions could be the most important you ever ask.
These questions will tell you not only what motivates you, but how to find out what motivates everyone else.
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Tim Johnson is a life-long student of self-development and leadership material. He's on a mission to teach as many people as he can to be successful in a moral and ethical way that can create positive change in individuals who in turn affect others.
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