Hit A Wall

Not again. I can't believe this is happening to me. Am I ever going to catch a break? I can't trust anyone.

Sometimes you just hit a wall. Other times you are making a choice to be a victim. It is your mindset that causes the murky waters. Yes, there will be times when life isn't fair. And I never wish to minimize anyone's suffering. But we need to ask ourselves if we are causing self imposed suffering? I think we all are guilty of this at some point in our lives. But so many have the "Not Again" attitude that is draining not only them, but everyone else around them.

I see this all too often in my practice. A new client comes in and tells me all the terrible things that are happening to them. I go into support mode and begin to line up some action items to stop the suffering. Over the course of a few months, no action items have been completed, let alone attempted. There is blame being cast at every person that is left in their life. And lastly, the slowly stop showing up for their appointments. It's hard to support someone who self identifies as being a life long victim.

Humour: Do Some People Use Humour As A Defence Mechanism?

There are a number of things that make life easier to handle on this planet, and being able to laugh is one of them. This ability serves a similar purpose to oil; it allows life to flow that little bit easier.

Without oil, a machine would soon end up seizing up, but while the world probably wouldn't come to a standstill without laughter, it certainly wouldn't be the same. Instead, it would be like living a life that is in black and white.

A Gloss

Being able to laugh, then, will be what gives life that bit of extra sparkle. So, let's say that someone is experiencing a fair amount of stress; they will be able to watch something that will help them to relax.

The Top 3 Reasons People Don't Pursue Their Dreams And What To Do About It

We all know someone who has talked about pursuing his or her dream "one day"... could that someone be you?

What stops us from pursuing our dreams? What keeps us procrastinating?

1) Not Enough Money

The number one reason we don't pursue our dreams. We need money to live day-to-day, and the cost of living in most "developed" countries is considerable. We're taught that money + possessions = success. We are encouraged to go into debt to get the things we want. We use credit to buy cars, homes, furniture, education, and vacations. It's the normal approach in our society. When we ponder pursuing our dreams, we wonder how can we afford it? Starting something new, like a business, going back to school, a career change, etc., will require money to make the change, we'll potentially stop making the money we're used to, and it will take some time to re-coup the money spent to make the change. As a result, our debt may increase, while we still have our current debt load and our day-to-day living expenses (and maybe supporting family members).